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I was recently amused by a friend on Facebook. They had the following image on their page:
Being Welsh, it amused me no end. I have said this phrase often myself! 
That got me thinking about other similar sayings like the Spanish “mañana” or the Cornish: “I’ll do it dreckly”! Then I realised how frustrating it can be to hear phrases such as this.
If we are expecting something to be done immediately or by a certain time we can get quite angry if it isn’t done when expected. So what can we do instead?
Tap of course!
Try the following:
- Even though I’m really angry that they took so long to fix my {object}, I can choose to stay calm about this
- Even though I’m frustrated that they haven’t finished working on my {object}, I’m ok
- Even though they let me down because they haven’t delivered what they promised, I accept myself and this situation anyway
- Even though I feel disappointed that they missed their deadline, I’m open to accepting this situation
Remember to be as specific as possible and keep tapping on all the emotions that come up.
There is also another aspect to this. When we say phrases such as this ourselves, what are trying to do?
Are we trying to put off the task by being vague? Do we not want to do it and therefore deliberately avoid a proper answer. Do we not think we are able to commit and complete when expected? Just practice asking yourself these questions the next time you say one of these phrases, and notice what is going on for you.
There is also the possibility that we need to lighten up and relax a little! Perhaps deadlines are a bit of an issue for you? Ask yourself what it is that you find comforting about having exact deadlines and tap around that to see if you are able to let go… All good food for thought
Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
So I was feeling kind of wobbly and a bit out of sorts. My usual “tool” would be to start tapping. Today felt different. I felt like I needed to get out and get some fresh air. It was cold and starting to sleet. I wrapped myself up in coat, hood and gloves and started walking. I walked in my local park and connected with the river. I stood and just watched it. I felt the constancy of the water flowing. I felt the wonderful energy of the water, trees and plants.
Daffodils, snowdrops and crocuses were starting to appear. I felt a wonderful sense of aliveness and new life. I breathed in deeply and appreciated everything around me. Everything else just seemed to disappear. My problems faded into the background.
Today I was helped by mother nature and I felt very grateful for this experience.
Flowing River
I know that EFT is always there for me. Sometimes a walk in the park can help too. Sometimes combining the two is even more powerful – tapping in nature, surrounded by all that wonderful energy
Do you have somewhere special where you go to connect with nature and indeed yourself? I’d love to hear your experiences too.
Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
“Shock: a sudden or violent disturbance of the mind, emotions, or sensibilities”
When life throws us difficult circumstances to deal with we often feel shock. It could be hearing bad news such as a loved one receiving a diagnosis of illness or passing away. It could an accident or traumatic event of some kind (e.g. fire or flood). The shock could be from a relationship ending or losing a job. It could also be something that someone said or the way someone behaved that shocked us.
Shock can make us feel weak, faint and raise our pulse. We may become absorbed in what happened and unable to think about anything else. We may feel numb, anxious or keep replaying the event over in our mind.
So what to do? At the first opportunity you have, get tapping! You don’t need to do the setup statement when you are right there in the feelings. Just start tapping focusing on what you are feeling.
Tapping really helps us release our emotions and deal with them, soothing our energy system which will also be feeling the shock.
Tap as often as you can, especially when you are recalling the shocking event or thinking about the consequences. Keep tapping until the shock has dissipated or subsided. Tap on all the aspects of what has happened, e.g. hearing the news, thinking about the consequences, all of the emotions involved, the after effects and any previous shocks etc.
If the shock is very bad then it is probably best to seek the help of a practitioner who will be able to guide you through the process of dealing with all the associated feelings. Always seek the advice of a medical practitioner if your symptoms are severe.
EFT is a great tool to learn to help us in times of need. Adding it to your life skills is one way you can help yourself to stay on an even keel, even after a shock.
Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
Wishing you a wonderful year ahead. I hope that 2012 brings you lots of fun, success, joy & peace.
Have you set yourself New Year Resolutions? Do you do this every year and then give up on them before January is out? How about setting yourself goals instead?
Set big goals if you always achieve your goals easily. Set smaller goals if you struggle with your goals. Start with baby steps if you find your goals very challenging. Chunk them down into smaller goals so that you build on your success.
Write a list of all the things that usually stop you achieving your goals and tap on them. Keep tapping as the challenges appear. Look for patterns and tap on these especially.
Blessings for the year ahead.
Keep tapping!
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
Merry Christmas
Wishing you all a very happy Christmas indeed. I hope you enjoy your day with your family and friends.
Remember to tap if the tension starts to rise between family members or you find yourself having to try too hard to keep the peace or the kids get out of control!
Wishing you lots of love, peace & joy this Christmas and the year ahead.
Louise
I know you say it every year to yourself…next year I will start my Christmas shopping and preparation earlier. I’ve done it myself. Well sometimes things come up that you weren’t expecting or time just seems to fly by and before you know it Christmas is only 10 days away and there is still much to do! Stay calm.
Instead of getting stressed or having a flap, why not take some time out and do some tapping. Yes I know you’ve got a million and one other things to do…but 5 or 10 minutes can make a difference! You’ll feel better afterwards and probably be able to think clearer.
Rate your current stress level and then try tapping along with the following:
- Even though I’ve left things too late again, I’m open to accepting myself anyway
- Even though I’m feeling stressed because I didn’t start my shopping in time, I’m open to giving myself a break
- Even though I’m so stressed because I’ve got far too much to do and not enough time, I’m ok
Eyebrow: I should’ve started earlier
Side of Eye: Why do I always leave it to the last-minute
Under Eye: It makes me so stressed every year
Under Nose: It’s so stressful why don’t I plan things better
Chin: I promised myself I’d start earlier this year
Collarbone: Why is it so hard for me to stick to my plans
Under Arm: It’s so stressful at this time of year
Top of Head: I don’t have enough time left to finish all my shopping and preparations
Eyebrow: I’m open to letting it be easier
Side of Eye: Maybe I can get it all done
Under Eye: Maybe if I plan things better, I’ll feel less stressed
Under Nose: What if I got some help
Chin: I can choose to feel different
Collarbone: Maybe I can feel calmer
Under Arm: What if I got myself better organised
Top of Head: I’m open to getting all my shopping done and staying calm
Remember to keep tapping until you feel better. Notice your stress level after the tapping. Focus on any particular aspects that are stressing you out. If it is all the Christmas cards you have to write then tap on that. If it is all the hustle and bustle at the shops that really stresses you out then focus on that. You get the idea – be more specific with your tapping.
I hope your Christmas preparations go well.
Keep tapping!
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
For any therapist, one of the most important things we must do is self-development. We need to keep up to date with the latest techniques, develop our skills and connect with other like-minded people. Most professional bodies these days have a requirement for a certain amount of Continuous Professional Development points each year.
One of the ways I achieve my self development is via EFT mentoring days run by the lovely Jacqui Footman. These days are fun and I always end up learning a great deal. It is a wonderful experience meeting like-minded people and sharing information and ideas. We have some wonderful discussions and do some great shared tapping. We discuss success stories or interesting cases. Sometimes we have a guest speaker who brings a wealth of knowledge on their specialist subject.
We also have the pleasure of sharing a wonderful lunch with informal chats and a chance to get to know everyone. These days really help my practice and I really look forward to the next one in January, where we will be learning all about EFT research techniques. This will give us the opportunity to take part in research ourselves and help even more people learn the benefits of this amazing technique.
For more information on Jacqui’s wonderful mentoring days, please check out her website: http://www.eftdevon.co.uk/index.php
Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
How many times have you procrastinated or put things off because you have dreaded doing them? Or just found that other things keep getting in the way and stopping you doing that one thing you must do today? In my experience whenever I have done this, the thing I had to do has always been easier than I imagined it. Our imaginations are very good at creating the worst case scenario or making the task seem more difficult.
After the task is accomplished I often think that was easier than I though it would be. I’d imagined the task to be much more complicated, more time-consuming and to challenge me much more etc. The next time you find yourself putting something off, procrastinating or just outright avoiding doing something, ask yourself why?
Ask yourself if you have imagined it will take too long, be too complicated, cause you too much stress etc. Then do some gentle tapping to help you let go of these things your imagination is putting in the way of you completing your task.
Example tapping statements:
- Even though I don’t have enough time to do this task, it’ll take way too long and demand too much of me, I accept my feelings anyway
- Even though I’m procrastinating over this task, I choose to let go of all my worries and concerns about it
- Even though I keep finding myself doing lots of other things instead of that one thing I know I really need to do, I accept myself anyway
- Even though I know I really should do that task, I feel far too stressed to actually start it right now and I’m willing to accept all my feelings about this
- Even though my imagination has made this task into a monster, I choose to go easy on myself and trust I can do it
Remember to tap using your own words whenever possible. Really tune in to how you feel and why you keep putting your tasks off. Keep tapping until you feel all your fears, worries, doubts etc have gone and you feel ready to do your task.
You can use your imagination to imagine your task is now really easy to complete. But always tap away any fears, doubts, worries and stress first.
Keep tapping
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
Have you ever felt too overwhelmed by your emotions? You feel like you can’t even admit to yourself that you have feelings about this situation because if you did they would all come flooding out and you just wouldn’t be able to cope.
When we feel this way we often stuff our emotions down because they feel too painful or overwhelming to deal with. But that can often lead to those feelings leaching out in other ways. Our shoulders become really tight and knotty, we have an ache in our stomach or we get bad headaches or migraines. This is our body’s way of telling us we need to deal with our feelings.
It can feel too scary to begin to address these feelings because we don’t want to feel out of control or overwhelmed by them. So firstly, please be very gentle with yourself.
You might find the following tapping helpful:
- Even though it feels too painful to begin to deal with {this situation/these emotions}, I’m willing to be very gentle with myself
- Even though I feel too overwhelmed by these emotions to begin dealing with them, I’m open to feeling safe and in control
- Even though I can’t even admit to myself that I have these feelings, I’m willing to be kind and gentle with myself
Tap a few rounds of these type of statements until you feel calmer and more in control. Then try:
- Even though I know I’ve been suppressing all these emotions, I choose to be able to let them out slowly in a way I can handle
- Even though my body has been holding these emotions for me, I choose to be able to calmly let them be heard now
- Even though these emotions have felt too painful and I’ve been scared of being overwhelmed by them, I choose to allow them out in a safe way now
Once you feel calmer about being able to deal with the situation/emotions then you can start tapping on them. You don’t have to dive right in and start tapping on them straightaway. You can even start by using very generic tapping statements like:
- Even though I have all these emotions, I accept myself and my feelings
- Even though these emotions have been difficult to face, I’m ready to deal with them now
Keep tapping using these generic statements until you feel you are ready to be more specific and get into the emotions themselves. Remember you are in control and can stop anytime if they start to feel too painful or overwhelming. You can of course tap on the feelings being too overwhelming and painful again.
EFT can be very gentle if used in this way. EFT is not designed to help us tough it out and push us on when we don’t feel ready. It is there to help us feel we can deal with our emotions safely and at a rate we can handle.
Remember to keep breathing and drink plenty of water.
Keep tapping and be gentle with yourself.
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
