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In the midst of a recession it is not surprising to hear that a lot of people are having money worries right now. Many people are feeling very stressed about money and whilst I can’t guarantee your income will increase with tapping, you can deal with the associated stress, anxiety, fears and other emotions that come up.
Money Worries
From a law of attraction point of view what we focus on is what we get. So if you are constantly focusing on lack of money then that is what you get. I’ll include some suggestions to address that, after the tapping script.
Firstly, assess how you are feeling. On a scale of 0 – 10 how do you feel about not having enough money? 10 being the most stressed/worried/scared etc. Write down the emotion(s) you feel too, scoring each one if there are multiple feelings.
- Even though I don’t have enough money right now and it is such a struggle to keep up with all the bills, I still deeply and completely accept myself anyway
- Even though money is so tight, there’s never enough, I accept my feelings about this
- Even though I’m so stressed because we just don’t have enough money coming in and it’s getting worse every month, I still love and accept myself anyway
Eyebrow: There isn’t enough money coming in
Side of eye: I’m so stressed about money
Under eye: I’m scared we can’t pay all the bills every month
Under nose: I hate having these money worries
Chin: I have sleepless nights because of money
Collarbone: My stomach churns at night because I’m worrying about money
Under arm: I’m scared because we never have enough
Top of head: I’m working really hard and there still isn’t enough
Eyebrow: I don’t know what else to do
Side of eye: It’s so draining worrying about money all the time
Under eye: I’ll never have enough money
Under nose: I hate struggling to pay the bills
Chin: I never have any luxuries
Collarbone: It’s hard enough just paying for the essentials
Under arm: I’m so fed up of all this money stress
Top of head: This money stress is a burden on my back
Eyebrow: I’m open to letting this money stress go
Side of eye: Worrying about money is not helping
Under eye: I’m open to changing these feelings today
Under nose: What if I can let go of this fear about money
Chin: What if I can feel calmer about money
Collarbone: Maybe I can sleep peacefully at night
Under arm: Maybe I can let this stress in my stomach go
Top of head: I’m open to feeling calmer about money
Repeat the tapping, until you feel calmer and your scores are down to zero. As usual use your words where they are more appropriate.
What message are you sending to the Universe? Notice when you say things like:
- I can’t afford it
- We don’t have enough money for that
- That is too expensive
By saying these things we are sending the message of lack to the Universe. Try changing your responses to a more positive response, e.g.
- I have other priorities for my money at the moment
- We’re keeping some money aside for X
- I’ve seen a better value product somewhere else
Gently remind yourself to focus on what you do have, rather than what you don’t. Keep on tapping on all those negative money emotions!
Talk soon!
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
Fear of what I hear you say? Success? I know most people are familiar with fear of failure. What is often surprising though is that a lot of people also have a fear of success. So how do you go about dealing with that fear of success? Firstly, you need to understand what success means to you and the expectations you associate with it.
Fear of success
Think about past times in your life and the specific events when you were successful. Now if any of those upset you then use EFT to clear out the negative emotions. Try the movie technique to clear out any negativity from those events. Many people actually sabotage themselves so that they don’t achieve their success. EFT can really help you clear out this self sabotaging behaviour.
Try the following questions and write down what comes up for you…
- Success means ……………
- I fear success because ……………
- I don’t deserve success because ……………
- Last time I was successful …………… happened
- Being successful means I’ll have to ……………
- Being successful means I won’t be able to ……………
- Being successful means I’ll have to give up ……………
- Being successful means I’ll lose ……………
- I sabotage myself by doing ……………
You can now use this information and do some tapping. So, if for example, you are worried that if you are succesful you won’t have enough time for your family then tap on that. If you think you’ll have so much pressure on you to keep up that success that it will drain you until you crash and burn, then tap on that. If you think you don’t deserve to be successful, then tap on that. Tap, tap, tap!
Here is a sample tapping script that you can use. Score your fear before you start tapping (where 10 is maximum fear).
- Even though I have this fear of success, I’m open to changing that today
- Even though I’m really frightened I’ll be a success and that will put so much pressure on me that I’ll crash and burn, I acknowledge and accept my feelings
- Even though I’m so scared I’ll be a success and then I’ll have no time for my family, I’m open to finding the right balance in my life
Eyebrow: I have this fear of success
Side of eye: It seems strange to fear success
Under eye: I’m scared I’ll have all this pressure on me
Under nose: I don’t want to get so busy that I have no family life
Chin: What if the pressure is too much for me
Collarbone: What if I feel overwhelmed
Under arm: I’m scared of success
Top of head: I’m scared I’ll have no time for my family and they’ll resent me
Eyebrow: I don’t deserve success
Side of eye: There will be too much pressure on me to keep this success going
Under eye: I’ll get overwhelmed
Under nose: I’m not good enough to succeed
Chin: I’ll feel guilty that I’m not giving enough to my family
Collarbone: I don’t want to succeed and then find it all too much to handle
Under arm: I’m scared of sustaining this success
Top of head: What if my family hate me for doing so well
Eyebrow: I’m open to letting this fear go
Side of eye: I want to clear out all these doubts
Under eye: I’m open to changing this fear today
Under nose: What if I can enjoy my success
Chin: What if I can find the right balance between success and family life
Collarbone: Maybe my family will support me
Under arm: Maybe I do deserve to be successful
Top of head: I’m open to enjoying my success
Remember to use your words where appropriate. Re-check your score and keep tapping and adjusting your statements until you are down to zero. Tap on all the different aspects of your fear. Test your results when you think you are finished. Visualise yourself being successful and check that no negatives come up. If they do, then do some more tapping.
I will leave you with this amazing quote from Marianne Williamson:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Keep tapping and enjoy the success you deserve!
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
One of the first things that happens when we are stressed is that we start breathing very shallowly, only using the top of our lungs. We often don’t breathe deep enough in general and when we get stressed this becomes even worse. You can check how you are breathing by simply placing one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach. Either lay down, sit or stand comfortably as you do this. Notice whether your chest hand or your stomach hand is rising as you breathe normally. To breathe effectively your stomach area should rise more than your chest as your diaphragm expands.
To counter stress one of the simplest things you can do is to breathe! There are several different breathing exercises you can do and here is one of the simplest and most effective.
Firstly sit in a comfortable position and place your hands in your lap. You will be breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth in this exercise. Place the tip of your tongue on the soft tissue just behind your upper front teeth and keep it there during this exercise.
- Breathe in slowly through your nose to the count of 4
- Hold your breath for a count of 7
- Slowly exhale through your mouth for a count of 8. When you exhale, make a soft “whoosh” sound
- This is 1 round. Repeat again 3 times, making a total of 4 rounds
The important thing is the ratio of 4:7:8. The out breath is twice as long as the in breath. You can make the breaths shorter, ensuring you stick to the ratio. Ensure you only do 4 breaths each time you practice this exercise initially. With time you can increase it to 8 breaths.
4-7-8 Breathing Exercise
This exercise has a natural calming and tranquilizing effect on the body. Use it whenever you feel stressed, feel tension in your body, before you react to a situation and in bed to help you go to sleep. It is a quick and effective exercise to do and can be done anywhere.
“Practicing regular, mindful breathing can be calming and energizing and can even help with stress-related health problems ranging from panic attacks to digestive disorders.”
Andrew Weil, M.D
Repeat this exercise at least twice a day and whenever you feel you need it.
Let me know how this exercise helps you.
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
Are you going through some moving stress? Have you found the house you want to buy? Maybe you’ve really fallen in love with it and set your heart on it. Or maybe you’re holding yourself back just in case it doesn’t go through. It isn’t easy either way. With the current recession, lack of available mortgages, wondering whether the house prices are going to fall even further. It all causes us stress. Then you have the whole hassle of the move itself. All that packing, organising, change of address and on the list goes.
I want this house
This tapping script is targeted at that stressful time when you’re trying to buy your house and you have that uncertainty, fear and trepidation about whether it will or won’t happen. Before you start, rate your score on a scale of 0 – 10 where 10 is maximum intensity.
- Even though I really want that house, it’s so perfect for me/us, I accept my feelings about this
- Even though I’m scared this house purchase will fall through, I’m open to remaining calm
- Even though it is so stressful not knowing if we will get this house and I’ll be really disappointed if we don’t, I accept all my feelings anyway
Eyebrow: I’m so stressed about this house
Side of eye: I really hope we get it – it’s my perfect house
Under eye: I’m so scared it will all fall through
Under nose: I hate feeling all this stress
Chin: I wish I knew if we were going to get this house
Collarbone: I really love this house and will be devastated if we don’t get it!
Under arm: I can’t stand this waiting game
Top of head: It’s so stressful not knowing if we’ll get this house or not
Eyebrow: I just can’t cope with the thought that we’ll lose this house
Side of eye: We’ve looked at so many houses and this is the only one I want
Under eye: I just won’t cope if it all falls through
Under nose: I have this big knot in my stomach
Chin: I wish it would all hurry up and go through
Collarbone: Why is it taking so long?
Under arm: I wake up at night in a cold sweat about this house
Top of head: I can’t stand this stress, it’s making me feel ill
Eyebrow: I’m open to staying calm
Side of eye: I guess worrying about it doesn’t really help
Under eye: Maybe I can feel a bit calmer
Under nose: What if I could let this stress go
Chin: I really want this house
Collarbone: Maybe I can remain positive
Under arm: What if it all goes smoothly
Top of head: Maybe it will all work out ok
Now take a deep breath and check your score again. Repeat the tapping until your score comes down to zero. Remember to use your words if they are more appropriate to you.
There are many different aspects about moving that cause us stress and anxiety. In future blogs I will address these aspects.
Until then, keep tapping!
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
Is clutter the bain of your life? It’s all that stuff that you mean to sort out one day. Except that one day never seems to come does it? You know the kind of stuff right? Your magazines, photos, paperwork, bills, the kids toys, old gadgets, presents, clothes, knick knacks etc. It gets sorted into piles and left until another time. Then time passes and you get used to walking around that pile or even moving it off the dining table so you can eat and then pop it back again when you’re done.
Clutter
It takes an effort to clear our clutter. It takes energy. It takes our emotions for quite often there are sentimental feelings about our clutter.
This isn’t the only type of clutter though. We have email clutter – just think when was the last time you had a good sort out of your inbox? Do you feel overwhelmed by the amount of emails that you get? It could be time to de-clutter your inbox and free yourself of those negative feelings when you check your email.
There is also thought clutter too. When we get overwhelmed by different ideas and thoughts. So you can also de-clutter your mind and write your ideas and thoughts down to free you to be more inspired.
If the idea of de-cluttering makes you break out into a sweat then use EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques to help you with this resistance.
Try the following setup statements:
- Even though the thought of de-cluttering makes me break out into a sweat, I accept myself anyway
- Even though it takes too much energy and I feel emotionally drained after de-cluttering, what if I found it easy and felt energised afterwards instead
- Even though I keep putting off de-cluttering because of the hassle factor, I know how much better I’ll feel after I’ve done it
Tap through your resistance. Tap on any emotions you feel about de-cluttering such as anxiety, fear or sadness about letting your things go.
As well as feeling less overwhelmed yourself you can help out other people. You can donate things to charity, recycle or swap items easily through different websites. Just think how good you’ll feel when you’ve de-clutttered your home and inbox. Your energy and inspiration can flow easily!
Keep tapping!
Louise
07866 013 637
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
Ok so you’ve booked your summer holiday. Got your bags packed, your tickets and passport at the ready. You get to the airport in plenty of time and that’s where it all starts to go wrong! Your flight has been delayed and you begin to feel the stress kick in.
Departures
Several years ago this exact thing happened to me. I must admit that I completely freaked out and didn’t handle it at all well! Our flight was delayed which meant we missed our connecting flight. We then had to fly a different route with an extra stop over. I was really stressed by this stage and didn’t handle all the extra security at Miami airport at all well. By the time we reached our destination, we were 12 hours late and our luggage was missing. We had 2 hours sleep before starting our tour and I was in a right mood! My boyfriend managed to calm me down (God bless him!). We were without our luggage for 3 days and it took me until the end of the holiday to see the funny side. It would’ve been a whole lot easier if I had had EFT to calm myself down. Well thankfully now I do! My boyfriend is very grateful too!!!
You can stay calm and enjoy your holiday even though it doesn’t go exactly as you planned it would. You just need to do a bit of tapping.
Tap on each individual thing that could go wrong with your holiday. Starting with the one that would stress you or upset you the most.
Examples include:
- Stressing whilst packing
- Getting lost on the way to the airport
- Arriving late at the airport
- Flight being delayed or cancelled
- Missing your connection
- Lost luggage
- Missing the bus to the resort
- The hotel not being what you expected
- Getting food poisoning
Use a different setup statement and reminder phrase for each of these different aspects and keep tapping until you have covered them all.
Here is a tapping script that covers the flight being delayed, your luggage going missing and the hotel being sub-standard. These are some of the most common things that can go wrong and stress you out before your holiday has really begun.
Setup:
Tap on the Karate Chop whilst repeating three times:
- Even though I really want the whole holiday to go smoothly and it will stress me out if anything goes wrong, I’m open to the possibility that I can remain calm no matter what happens
- Even though I want this holiday to be perfect, I’ve been waiting all year for it and I just can’t handle anything going wrong, I accept myself and my feelings anyway
- Even though I want the holiday to go smoothly and that there are no flight delays, lost luggage or sub-standard accommodation, I’m open to dealing with any mishaps calmly and rationally
Eyebrow: I want this holiday to be perfect
Side of Eye: I’ve waited the whole year for this holiday
Under Eye: It’s so important that I be able to relax on this holiday
Under Nose: If anything goes wrong it will spoil it all
Chin: I hope the flight is on time
Collarbone: It will stress me out if it is delayed
Under Arm: It has to go perfectly otherwise I can’t switch off
Top of Head: If my luggage goes missing, I’ll feel so anxious I won’t enjoy my holiday
Eyebrow: I just can’t cope if the accommodation isn’t what I expected
Side of Eye: If my bags get lost I’ll stress right out
Under Eye: I want this holiday to go smoothly otherwise it’ll be ruined
Under Nose: I hate it when something goes wrong
Chin: If the hotel isn’t up to my standards, I’ll want to go home
Collarbone: It’s so frustrating if the flight is delayed
Under Arm: If the holiday doesn’t start perfectly I’ll feel stressed and I won’t enjoy myself
Top of Head: I get so upset if the flight is delayed
Eyebrow: I’m open to remaining calm no matter what
Side of Eye: What if I could just relax if the flight was delayed
Under Eye: Maybe I can enjoy my holiday if my luggage goes missing
Under Nose: Maybe the flight being delayed just won’t affect me
Chin: What if I could remain calm even if my luggage went missing
Collarbone: Maybe I can cope if the hotel isn’t up to my standards
Under Arm: What if I can relax and enjoy this holiday even if it isn’t perfect
Top of Head: I’m sure I can focus on having a good time anyway
Use your words where appropriate to really tune in to how you feel. Remember to keep tapping until the issue has fully resolved.
Beautiful beach
Now please, enjoy your stress free holiday!
Keep on tapping.
Louise
louise@freeflowingenergy.co.uk
07866 013 637
Quite simply the answer is no. If you have tried EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and found that you don’t actually like the tapping sensation then there are alternatives.
- Rub each spot instead. Repeat the tapping statements as you gently rub each spot. Always use a pressure that feels right for you.
- Touch and Breathe (TAB) is another option – touch each spot and repeat your tapping statement. Then with your fingers still in place, take an easy breath. This is a slower almost meditative form of EFT (developed by psychologist Dr John Diepold).
- Imagine tapping the spots as you repeat your tapping statements. This is a great way to work when you feel stressed, anxious etc in public. Just imagine you are tapping on the points whilst mentally repeating the statements.
EFT is truly a flexible transformational tool. Experiment to see which method works best for you – tapping, rubbing, touching or imagining. Personally I use a combination of these depending on the situation. If I’m in public and don’t want to be seen tapping, then I imagine the tapping.
Often I will use TAB before going to bed or in bed. This is very slow, meditative and calming – ideal to help you get a good night’s sleep. If a particular tapping point is a bit sore – I will often rub it rather than tapping on it.
Experiment and see what feels right for you.
If you would like any help with EFT then I am available for sessions via phone/Skype worldwide or face to face in Cardiff or Devon. Call me on 07866 013 637 or email me for a free consultation, to see how I can help you.
Are you a veteran? Do you know a vet? It is estimated that 33% of the vets returning home suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder(Rand Corp report 2008). Many of these men and women are suffering alone with no-one to help them. They are suffering from:
- Hyper vigilance
- Hyper arousal
- Nightmares/Flashbacks
- Insomnia
- Alcohol/drug addiction/dependency
- Depression
- Stress/anxiety
- Relationship problems
The traditional approach of drug administration just seems to make them worse. Now, there is an alternative answer. Gary Craig’s long-awaited vet film has been released:
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http://www.operation-emotionalfreedom.com/index.html
This important documentary film examines how veterans in America diagnosed with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) are currently treated. The film shows a new approach to healing PTSD and trauma using energy psychology (EFT) instead. It follows a group of volunteer vets and their families on this incredible healing journey.
Find out more now how you can help a vet. Visit the website and watch trailers. Purchase the film and spread the word about this important approach to helping our vets now.
